Frequently Asked Questions Below are some questions and answers that are often asked of me. If you don't find what you are looking for here, please drop me an email 01 Which type of coaching do I need? If you're unsure about which experience to opt for or if coaching is for you, then please contact me to share your situation and we can discuss the different ways they could work for you. If you want to understand the difference between coaching and mentoring, read 'Need to Know'. 02 I'd like Partnership Coaching but not sure my business partner is up for it? It's important that both of you have energy and an interest in improving your relationship. Finding the suggestion of coaching to your partner difficult is a sign that your relationship may be in need of some attention. Try suggesting a health check on how you're both doing and connecting it to business performance and growth. Suggest that a third party, such as a coach, can help it be productive. Alternatively, we can work together on a 1~2~1 basis around how you experience and co-create your relationships. 03 What's the first step in creating a coaching relationship? It starts with you. What issues and opportunities would you like to bring to coaching? Read the 'Need to Know' document. Try out an 'activity' on the coaching activities page to stimulate your thinking. Or request an Intro Chat or drop me an email. Coaching starts with a conversation. Before we commit to working together, we have what is known as a compatibility meeting so that we can create a shared understanding of what you would like from the relationship and how I work. We cover how we will work together, including where, when, for how long and agree the fee structure. 04 What's the difference between ICF Mentor Coaching & Supervision ? While both are developmental partnerships, ICF Mentor Coaching orientates around the ICF Core Competencies and Ethics. Through a deep understanding of this competency framework, the coach builds alignment of how to coach with who they are as coach. In Supervision, we may refer to a competency framework & ethical guidelines, however the viewpoint is much broader. 05 How much does it cost to work with you? My fees are structured to be affordable for individuals, small businesses and corporate clients; click the link for a summary. I offer fixed price packages for 1~2~1, Partnership Coaching and ICF Mentor Coaching. As ~bend the river is a small business, I am able to offer fees without the additional cost of VAT. 06 What's the cancellation fee & notice? If there is a 'no show' for a scheduled session, it will be charged at full fee, except in emergency circumstances. If reasonable notice is given (this will be detailed in our working agreement) we reschedule. If the package is not delivering for you as expected, together we explore the options and agree a way forward regarding timeline and outstanding fees. Need to Know Need to Know Fees Summary

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Felicity combines 20 years of business and leadership experience with academic knowledge and a deep curiosity about change. Founder of ~ bend the river. My name is Felicity... I got interested in how our working relationships affected performance, growth and well-being when starting my coach training in 2009. Back then I was working as a senior leader for a FTSE100 company. I already knew that communication was key to the success of a project and team leadership but it was the experience of creating coaching relationships that highlighted I knew my coaching clients of 2 hours better than my team members of 2 years! Since then I've focused my attention on building relationship expertise and coaching skills to complement my 20 years of small and corporate business experience. 20 years of business experience business market researcher and writer (my first job and by far the least favourite!) brand marketing and trade marketing in stationery and food industries category marketing, business planning, category management and change project and programme management at Sainsbury's Supermarkets governance responsibility as a charity Trustee for Community Network experience of being developed as a senior leader & responsible for multi-million pound budgets experience of creating & recruiting, being in and leading cross-functional & virtual teams and groups exposed to the uncertainty of business restructures 2019: Director of UK ICF Chapter, leading on restructure, governance and coach membership 2020: President of UK ICF Chapter, attracting talent and balancing stability and growth during Covid-19 How I work... Together & in equal relationship with you Facilitating from the current towards the future as it emerges In appreciation, respect and openness to the difference between us By observing & sensing the dynamic & energy to heighten awareness Creatively to open up new perspectives through heart, gut and body knowing to complement our brains In service of you, your relationships and your organisation Expertise and Skills Diploma Relational Change Supervision 2023 MSc in Leading & Facilitating Change from Metanoia Institute 2017 Dissertation: An exploration of how our working relationships support performance, growth and well-being Sainsbury's Mastercoach, training accredited by EMCC & Middlesex University 2010 ICF coach training and first accreditation to ACC level 2013, progressing to PCC in 2019 iEQ9 Level 1 Accredited Coach Trainer 2018 Systemic Constellation training with The Whole Partnership 2016 Leading from the Emerging Future: Theory U from Otto Scharmer MOOC Autumn 2015 BA in Management Studies from Hull University

Join me for Flow with Felicity. Get in touch to start a conversation about your development. Email: info@bendtheriver.org Connect for Coaching & Supervision info@bendtheriver.org Tel: 07900 255380 LinkedIn: Felicity.Hodkinson Book an Intro Coaching chat >>> There is really only one way for us to find out if coaching/supervision may be of support to you and if I may be the right coach/supervisor for you. Get in touch by phone, form or email and let's shift your inner dialogue into a 45-60 min conversation. There is no obligation following this free exploratory compatibility session. I look forward to hearing from you All the best, Felicity I want to subscribe to Flow with Felicity Send Success! Message received. Anchor 1 Not yet ready to chat? Join me #First Friday of the month Join me for Flow with Felicity Monthly q's, tips, resources and stories for #leaders and #coaches who value evolving through self-reflection and learning. ... In your inbox on the #First Friday of each month to deepen your awareness of your Flow & bring more of who you are into this world. What grabs your Interest? * Required Leadership Coaching Work Relationships Life Lessons Career Progress Join Me for Flow with Felicity

Felicity Hodkinson is the founder, coach and supervisor behind ~bend the river #BeBetterTogether coaching and coach supervision. Read her Why and Story. Hello The joy of being in my 50's is that I am happily many things . The layers and threads of different experiences are knitted together into the one big tapestry that makes me who I am. Offering #BeBetterTogether Coaching and Coach Supervision follows on from a first career that started in marketing, took in strategy and commercial buying and ended with change management. Leadership of a few direct reports morphed into a sizeable project team of indirect reports & responsibility for improving customer experience. Governance experience was gained as a Trustee for a charity that focused on minimising social isolation and loneliness. Along with leading the UK ICF Chapter as President during Covid. A focus on nurturing healthy relationships is purposeful work that feels needed in a world of individualism, splits and division. I see it as a contribution towards acknowledging our mutuality and building capacity and capability for quality interaction. I love learning, so I continue to layer on new experiences and spend time reflecting on who I am and how I want to show up. It feels natural to evolve rather than stand still. I invite you to join me. Join Flow with Felicity Active Enthusiast A love of outdoor adventures was catalysed by an active childhood growing up in Hong Kong. I'm always excited by the unknown element of an adventure, and the focus of a physical challenge. It's time together with loved ones. You'll find me in the mountains and by the sea; on my bike, skis or paddle board. Playful Creator Laugh and hold it with lightness. Play for me is making it up as you go knowing it's rooted in years of experience. Create, test, learn. It's a form of expression to co-create, write, design and share. To build, test and learn. Quiet Specialist A natural preference for quiet and intimate spaces with time to deepen my understanding. I've always turned to writing to process my experience, and I continue this practice with my personal reflections in Flow with Felicity. I love the learning that each client brings me and weaving this into insights to share with others. Let's work together Book an Intro Coaching chat >>> Get to know me via LinkedIn and Flow with Felicity or reach out for an Introduction chat. These 45-60 min complimentary video calls to give us the opportunity to learn more about each other. My intention to guide you in deepening your understanding around the support you need at this point, so you can make an informed choice. My Story Honesty Insight: Until my 40s I felt uneasy in many of my relationships. Whether in social or work settings, I frequently experienced awkwardness; a lack of words with breath stuck in my throat and a rigid disjointed body. My coping strategy was to concentrate on tasks and I honed my skills in bringing structure and coordination to teams and projects. I had a feeling of being an outsider , so I became adept at observing, listening, and summarising both the details and the bigger picture. Lacking confidence in my intrinsic worth, I sought to build it by meeting others' needs, which fostered a servant leadership approach. All of these developments arose from coping, not from a place of strength. I was the classic swan, looking calm above the water and paddling madly with my feet to keep up. It felt like I lived on the edge of myself. My breakthrough in relationships occurred in 2009 when I began coaching. I was amazed by the transformative power of the intimate trust co-created in the coaching relationship. This shifted my self-perception in relationships from task-oriented towards people and the quality of our connection. I felt within the relationship and calm throughout my whole self. I was filled with energy. This experience prompted me to ask questions like: How can I infuse this quality into all my work relationships? How does it promote growth, transparency and trust? What created a safe space for me to be my true self? And how does it serve as the foundation for teamwork and culture? My passion for understanding relationships and helping others access their true selves in various work contexts continues to drive my development and work. #BeBetterTogether For how I work, read about the ~ bend the river approach Coach Bio Supervisor Bio Let's work together Book an Intro Coaching chat >>> Get to know me via LinkedIn and Flow with Felicity or reach out for an Introduction chat. These 45-60 min complimentary video calls to give us the opportunity to learn more about each other. My intention to guide you in deepening your understanding around the support you need at this point, so you can make an informed choice.

Flow with Felicity is a monthly read to stimulate and inspire reflection, self-awareness and development of who you are and how you show up with others. #28 Flow with Felicity, June 2026 What happens when a meander becomes a waterfall, and what might it have to do with the DNA of belonging? Jun 16 6 min read #27 Flow with Felicity, May 2026 Something is changing. I can feel it in my body! Shifting states and the comfort of the U-change process tell me that it's time to put Move Together with Nature out there. Jun 5 8 min read #26 Flow with Felicity, April 2026 A lightbulb moment on being with/within Nature. Frustrations with no-shows. Plus focus on the HOW, not just the WHAT of work, when starting a new relationship. Apr 30 6 min read #25 Flow with Felicity, March 2026 Living to 100 raises many Q's; What is the gap between being convinced and taking action? The 10 common challenges of coaching workplace relationships Apr 2 6 min read #24 Flow with Felicity, February 2026 What is the shape of your life plus AI impact on team coaching. And a favourite recipe. Mar 5 6 min read #23 Flow with Felicity, January 2026 What can you release in 2026 to allow more space for joy, connection and adventure? Jan 22 3 min read #22 Flow with Felicity, December 2025 Interest is everything. Stay in touch with your interests. When you follow your own interests, your passion and energy excites others to join you. Dec 11, 2025 4 min read #21 Flow with Felicity, November 2025 The Non-Issue Nov 26, 2025 1 min read #20 Flow with Felicity, October 2025 In this month's issue: What's Beyond? | Your Capacity to be YOU is Expandable | Habit Stack Self-Regulation Practices | Self-Regulation Practices by Enneagram Type Oct 3, 2025 17 min read #19 Flow with Felicity, September 2025 In this month's issue: Gifted Green | Relational Leadership | Consensus Decision Making | Enneagram Insights into Leadership Decision Making Sep 6, 2025 15 min read The 2016 Relational Learning Series This series of posts from 2016 was inspired by how I was impacted by the content of my MSc in Organisational Change. It was the first time that I'd experimented with BOTH writing regularly AND sharing it publicly. In this case, the commitment was for a weekly post for 12 weeks. I was also experimenting with sketching and love seeing the reminder of this point of my creativity. Honouring our connection (and our individuality) This is the twelfth and final in this series of posts about ‘relational learning’; how we learn about ourselves through our relationships... Nov 23, 2016 5 min read What has been left unspoken, but still said? This is the eleventh and penultimate in the series of twelve posts about ‘relational learning’; how we learn about ourselves through our... Nov 15, 2016 5 min read In, out or on the boundary of the relationship? This is the tenth in the series of posts (aiming for twelve!) about ‘relational learning’; how we learn about ourselves through our... Nov 7, 2016 4 min read Part 2: Time, task, relationship... which comes first for you? This is the ninth in the series of posts about ‘relational learning’; how we learn about ourselves through our relationships with others... Nov 1, 2016 4 min read Time, task, relationship... which comes first for you? This is the eighth in the series of posts about ‘relational learning’; how we learn about ourselves through our relationships with others... Oct 25, 2016 4 min read Do I belong here? This is the seventh in the series of posts about ‘relational learning’; how we learn about ourselves through our relationships with... Oct 18, 2016 3 min read Other useful posts #JUST ENOUGH is the new #GOALCRUSHING Oct 18, 2023 4 min read Coaches: Use Supervision to Tap into your Core Wisdom Sep 21, 2023 2 min read How elastic is your Partnership? Oct 16, 2018 4 min read How clearly do you see yourself? Sep 11, 2018 7 min read 'Be who you are'... the myth of Authentic Leadership May 30, 2018 4 min read Invest in your Co-Founder partnership, not just your business May 16, 2018 8 min read 1 2 3 4 Flow with Felicity (19) 19 posts Adult Development (12) 12 posts Attention (5) 5 posts Body Wisdom (4) 4 posts Mindful Living (4) 4 posts Coaching with Nature (3) 3 posts Personal Growth (3) 3 posts Quote (3) 3 posts AI Coach (2) 2 posts Authentic Vulnerability (2) 2 posts Change (2) 2 posts Enneagram Insights (2) 2 posts Leadership Growth (2) 2 posts Platform of Value (2) 2 posts Relational Skills (2) 2 posts Self-Awareness Journey (2) 2 posts Trust (2) 2 posts Coaching Challenges (1) 1 post Confidence (1) 1 post Consensus Building (1) 1 post Convincer Patterns (1) 1 post Curated Reading Pathways (1) 1 post Emotional Resilience (1) 1 post Experiments (1) 1 post First Year Reflections (1) 1 post Ghosting in Relationships (1) 1 post Healthy Boundaries (1) 1 post Interdependent Relationships (1) 1 post Introverted Leadership (1) 1 post KASE Skills (1) 1 post Leadership Insights (1) 1 post LI Voice Message (1) 1 post Life and Career Transitions (1) 1 post Listening (1) 1 post Nature as Co-Coach (1) 1 post Navigating Change (1) 1 post Nervous System Mastery (1) 1 post Neuroscience (1) 1 post Overcoming Resistance (1) 1 post Pace (1) 1 post People Pleasing (1) 1 post Personal Growth Insights (1) 1 post Power (1) 1 post Reflections on Aging (1) 1 post Relational Coaching (1) 1 post Relational Leadership (1) 1 post Self-Doubt (1) 1 post Self Reflection (1) 1 post Self-Regulation Tips (1) 1 post Share What (1) 1 post Supplier-Buyer Dynamics (1) 1 post Trigger Cycle (1) 1 post Trust Beliefs (1) 1 post Why to What (1) 1 post Window of Tolerance (1) 1 post Workplace Dynamics (1) 1 post Start now... Resource yourself right now and try out one of these activities. Breathe.... M indfulness is the latest business buzz word and there's a reason why. Today's business environment is typically hectic with each day like a little whirlwind that sweeps us along. This is the most simple of exercises reminding us to Breathe. By breathing, we return our focus to the body and give our minds a rest from the relentless day. It calms our brain and frees it up to think more clearly again whilst also reducing the stress in our bodies. Use this whenever and whereever needed in your life. Draw.... This 20 min exercise is designed to help you start to surface some points to bring to a coaching conversation. Your authentic leadership starts with you and where you are in the world of your life. read more... Walk.... This 20 min exercise is designed to help you calm your mind and shift your perspective about a live situation. You let go of the problem and see what arises for you as you take a walk. read more... Map.... ...the spheres of your life to see how they connect to each other; support or create tension. Experiment with changes and notice your responses. You are one person & your work and life are interconnected. read more... Write.... about your issue in a continuous flow to crystallize the question that's going round your head. In 15 mins, you can clarify your thinking and start to move onto options and answers. read more... Anchor 2

Leaders, Founders, Business Owners, Life Seekers and Coaches all seek out the services of Felicity Hodkinson at ~Bend the River. Read her testimonials to learn that she is known for bringing both her calm and intuition to gift her clients clarity. I partner with... Leaders & Life Seekers I work with individuals who are looking for support in developing their leadership presence and relationship capability, particularly during times of change. You may be looking for coaching support to make a smooth transition to a new company or simply seeking support that is not available within your current company. As ~ bend the river is a small business, you get the advantage of fees without the extra cost of VAT. Founders & Business Owners If your leadership & co-founder relationship defines the success of your small business I can support you during the different phases of growth & change in a number of different ways. If you're a sole owner then 1~2~1 would be suitable. If you're joint business partners, then consider investing in the partnership coaching offer to strengthen your relationship ready for the changes and challenges of the future. Coaches, Organisational Development & People Professionals If you're looking for a partner to support your awareness of self and quality of your work relationships, the developmental impact of ICF Mentor Coaching is ideal for coaches seeking a credential. For those seeking a collegiate relationship that both challenges and calms restorative, I offer supervision to coaches & practitioners in the People industry. Corporate Contracts A coaching approach with individuals that supports and builds their relationship presence, capacity and competence is a core addition to a leadership learning & development offer. Alternatively, you may be going through significant structural change and your leaders need additional coaching support to help them lead with presence and authenticity during this heightened period of change. Recruitment Consultants Is it important to you that the recruitment match is successful and long lasting? Giving your talent a coach to support the first 6 months in a new business helps the senior leadership capability that shone through in interview become a reality and flourish in the new environment rather than just be absorbed by it, or at worst overwhelmed by it. Investors Further secure your investment by adding Be Better Together coaching to your support package. Ensure your founders have the people and relationship skills to match their vision, knowledge and tech skills. Minimise the relationship fall-out that can derail a successful venture. Greater self awareness that has driven improved performance at both personal and team levels. This self awareness has also reduced personal stress and avoided conflict within teams as I have grown in confidence in how I deal with team performance matters. Ultimately this all leads to an increase in the performance of the organisation. Richard, HR Professional London, FTSE 100 Business Interactive. Not soft. Challenging Dean, IT Professional London, FTSE 100 Business A massive 'thank you' for your calmness and energy that you have shared with me to help me become my 'brilliant self'. Anna, Senior Leader Coventry, FTSE 100 Business Felicity's style was very open and relaxed. I'd met her once before our first meeting, but only briefly. Our first meeting allowed me to trust her very quickly and easily because she was very open and easy to talk through things with from day one. This set the tone for me going forward and I would describe this initially as her method. A really important way of allowing us to get the most from the time we had. Setting up agreed ways of working on day one and key objectives and often returning to these helped to keep me on track and to clearly see the progression I was making with her coaching support. Paul, Senior Leader Yorkshire, FTSE 100 Business Please reload Book an Intro Coaching chat >>>

At Bend the River, Felicity Hodkinson offers leadership coaching, mentor coaching and coach supervision. The focus is on knowing oneself, and strengthening workplace relationships to support individual and organisational performance, growth and well-being. Be Better Together Ways to work together These packages offer you the flexibility to meet your leadership, relationship and life needs. To help you decide on which package and whether I'm the coach or supervisor you want to work with, I offer 45-60min complimentary Intro Chats. Book an Intro Chat >>> Emerge An introductory 1.5hr coaching package including a STD iEQ Enneagram report. Ideal for those who want to access the key building blocks of self-awareness. Partnership This is pair coaching, ideal for working on your relationship together. Packages include the PRO iEQ Enneagram for 2 people and start with a minimum 5hr commitment. Supervision Individual supervision, online or in person. Or join The UnFurling, an intentionally small circle of practitioners seeking a deep container for grounding their presence and practice. We'll be together with Nature. Evolve A n in-depth 8hr coaching package, ideal for a 6-9 month transition in your leadership, relationships and life. Move Together with Nature An immersive in-person experience on the coast combined with online sessions designed to help you shift the 'stuckness' and go beyond where you can go on your own. Also available as ForestPlay. Speaking An advocate for coaching, movement, togetherness and Nature, Felicity brings her experience and passion to live events, podcasts and as a writer. Book an Intro Coaching chat >>> Join Flow with Felicity LEADERSHiP COACHING “The coaching conversations with Felicity have been hugely insightful and incredibly powerful. Felicity bought a structure and consistency that made it more than just a series of conversations. I've been able to do real things and take meaningful actions as a result of the work we have done .” - Antony Cromb, Head of Strategy, Sainsbury's Partnering together with... Book an Intro Coaching chat >>> Felicity brings the ~ bend the river coaching and supervision approach to a wide range of clients. At all stages of life and work, from different industries and with varying desires and challenges. What unites them is their commitment to growing their self-awareness; their care about the impact they have on others and a belief, that the quality of the work they do, is deeply affected by the quality of their relationships. Leaders In our coaching relationship we explore & evolve who you are and how you show up in your relationships with your team, with peers, with stakeholders and with your Board. From self-awareness comes choice, possibility and impact. For all stages of leadership. Next Founders/Owners Come as an individual or as a pair to understand how your similarities and differences can be both the source of flow and tension in your business relationship. Learn how to speak and listen honestly and constructively. Support your co-performance, well-being & growth. Next Life Seekers During your life and career transitions, Felicity joins you with her signature quality of calm clarity to help you find direction & keep you true in your relationships. We ground you in your core values to move amongst the 4 stages of transitions, and activate your natural sense of knowing what is next. Next Coaches As coaches, the quality of the relationships we hold with our clients shapes the value and impact of coaching for them. Give these relationships focus with Supervision and align your presence and practice as a coach. Next What's it like to work with me?

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